Yesterday I attended an event at the Australian High Commission with Alah, Jv, Sh and Az. Quite an interesting and auspicious occassion. I kinda miss hanging out with DC people.. tapi kalau nak fikir long term kata kan.. sampai bila... dia orang nih semua come and go.. U make friends, pastu dia orang blah.. cukup ah half of my childhood life is full of intermissions, skang adult life pulak.. and oh man.. the scratch and marks it left. I think ramai dc kids poyo giler lah.. sad to say... bergaya jer lebih.. abok takder.. thinking that they're so bloody freaking special for god knows what apparent reason. Such is life.

Assalamualaikum people!!

har dee har har... 2day me aint wearing blue... me cousin's here all da way from johore.. sittin' on me bed suffering from PMS -me think anyways...

me had a fine weekend! started on friday me hung on with me mates, went to megamall and off to old hartamas, after dat me met up wif me friend. the next day we caught a movie 13 GOING ON 30 starring Jennifer Garner. Such a touching movie I say. Walked around 1Utama, had dinner at home and watched AF finale and partied at Savannah's. Light supper at Concorde. talking stuff about marriage.. ugh.. i readily dread the M word.

Yesterday we just hung out at home and caught the KL fashion week show at PWTC. Arrived back home around midnite. Today cuz' woke up purty late, headed off to Pudu to buy her ticket back home, then went to Petaling Street.

Yesterday I went to watch a foreign Vietnamese movie with a friend of mine something is wrong with other blog.. goddamnit!!

1. You pick the wrong person because you expect him/her to change after you're married. The classic mistake: Never marry potential. The golden rule is, if you can't be happy with the person the way he or she is now, don't get married. As a colleague of mine so wisely put it, "You actually can expect people to change after they're married... for the worst!" So when it comes to the other person's spirituality, character, personal hygiene, communication skills, and personal habits, make sure you can live with these as they are now.

2. You pick the wrong person because you focus more on chemistry than on character. Chemistry ignites the fire, but good character keeps it burning. Beware of the "I'm in love" syndrome. "I'm in love" often means, "I'm in lust". Attraction is there, but have you carefully checked out this person's character? Here are four character traits to definitely check for:

Humility: Does this person believe that "doing the right thing" is more important than personal comfort? Do I want to be more like this person? Would I like my child to turn out like him or her?

Kindness: Does this person enjoy giving pleasure to other people? How does s/he treat people s/he doesn't have to be nice to? Does s/he do volunteer work? Give charity?

Responsibility: Can I depend on this person to do what s/he says s/he's going to do?

Happiness: Does this person like himself? Does s/he enjoy life? Is s/he emotionally stable? Ask yourself: Do I want to be more like this person? Do I want to have a child with this person? Would I like my child to turn out like him or her?

3. You pick the wrong person because the man doesn't understand what a woman needs most. Men and women have unique emotional needs, and more often than not, it is the man who just doesn't "get it." Jewish tradition places the onus on the man to understand the emotional needs of a woman and to satisfy them. The unique need of a woman is to be loved -- to feel that she is the most important person in her husband's life. The husband needs to give her consistent, quality attention. This is most apparent in Judaism's approach to sexual intimacy. The Torah obligates the husband to meet the sexual needs of his wife. Sexual intimacy is always on the woman's terms. Men are goal-oriented, especially when it comes to this area. As a wise woman once pointed out, "Men have two speeds: on and off." Women are experience-oriented. When a man is able to switch gears and become more experience-oriented, he will discover what makes his wife very happy. When the man forgets about his own needs and focuses on giving his wife pleasure, amazing things happen.

4. You choose the wrong person because you do not share a common life goals and priorities. There are three basic ways we connect with another person:
-chemistry and compatibility
-share common interests
-share common life goal

Make sure you share the deeper level of connection that sharing life goals provide. After marriage, the two of you will either grow together or grow apart. To avoid growing apart, you must figure out what you're "living for," while you're single -- and then find someone who has come to the same conclusion as you. This is the true definition of a "soul mate." A soul mate is a goal mate -- two people who ultimately share the same understanding of life's purpose and therefore share the same priorities, values and goals.

5. You pick the wrong person because you do not have a deeper emotional connection with this person. To evaluate whether you have a deeper emotional connection or not, ask: "Do I respect and admire this person?" This does not mean, "Am I impressed by this person?" We are impressed by a Mercedes. We do not respect someone because they own a Mercedes. You should be impressed by qualities of creativity, loyalty, determination, etc. Also ask: "Do I trust this person?" This also means, "Is he/she emotionally stable? Do I feel I can rely on him/her?"

6. You pick the wrong person because you choose someone with whom you don't feel emotionally safe. Ask yourself the following questions: Do I feel calm, peaceful and relaxed with this person? Can I fully express myself with this person? Does this person make me feel good about myself? Do you have a really close friend who does make you feel this way? Make sure the person you marry makes you feel the same way! Are you afraid of this person in any way? You should not feel you need to monitor what you say because you are afraid of how the other person will view it. If you're afraid to express your feelings and opinions openly, there's a problem with the relationship. Be on the look out for someone who is always trying to change you. Another aspect of feeling safe is that you don't feel the other person is trying to control you. Controlling behaviors are a sign of an abusive person. Be on the look out for someone who is always trying to change you. There's a big difference between controlling" and "making suggestions." A suggestion is made for your benefit; a control statement is made for their benefit.

7. You pick the wrong person because you don't put everything on the table. Anything that bothers you about the relationship must be brought up for discussion. Bringing up the uncomfortable stuff is the only way. To evaluate how well the two of you communicate, negotiate, and work together. Over the course of a lifetime, difficulties will inevitably arise. You need to know now, before making a commitment: Can you resolve your differences and find compromises that work for both of you? Never be afraid to let the person know what bothers you. This is also a way for you to test how vulnerable you can be with! this person. If you can't be vulnerable, then you can't be intimate. The two go hand in hand.

8. You pick the wrong person because you use the relationship to escape from personal problems and unhappiness. If you are unhappy and single, you'll probably be unhappy and married, too. Marriage does not fix personal, psychological and emotional problems. If anything, marriage will exacerbate them. If you are not happy with yourself and your life, take responsibility to fix it now while you are single. You'll feel better, and your future spouse will thank you.

9. You pick the wrong person because he/she is involved in a triangle. To be "triangulated" means a person is emotionally dependent on someone or something else while trying to develop another relationship. A person who hasn't separated from his or her parents is the classic example of triangulation. People can also be triangulated with things as well, such as work, drugs, Internet, hobbies, sports or money. Be careful that you and your partner are free of triangles. The person caught in the triangle cannot be fully emotionally available to you. You will not be their number one priority. And that's no basis for a marriage.

One of my many ex-colleagues introduced me to this liquid diet program, of which he claims that you can like lose 5- kgs in like a week. I have been like so everlastingly desperate to like shed this amount of weight in ages. So i figured.. what the hell.. y not give it a try, as follows:

Every breakfast only, in this specific order one at a time
- 1 tablespoon of Apple cider vinegar with 1 teaspoon of organic pure and raw honey, in a mug of distilled water
- 1 teaspoon of cold press wheat grass powder with 1 mug of distilled water or juice 100g of fresh wheat grass
- 1 glass of freshly squeezed green apples and carrot juice
- 2 tablespoon of Udo's Choice oil
- 1 sachet of Immuflora in a mug of distilled water or added to your fruit juice

- 30 minutes later
- 2 tablespoon of organic and natural psyllium husk in a mug of distilled water

Note: you should drink lots of distilled water throughout the day. I was drinking about 4 to 5 liters a day

My ex-colleague is also on this so-called detoxification process, of which he does tramopline exercises as well. As for me, I prefer to be an all rounder and try out many new things

I woke up this morning and I thought to myself... gosh.. it's already Thursday, that's like 2 more days till the weekend. Normally on Thursdays I have my Sharahan Ugama classes (henceforth malam Jumaat) and then the next day it's Friday. My most favourable day would be a Wednesday coz it's like in the middle of the week. I like everyone else hate Mondays coz' it's supposedly the beginning of the week.

Anyway, yesterday I managed to watch the German movie entitled Victor Vogel - about this young German kid who made his break in the advertising industry and had to choose either between love or career. (Sounds rather familiar). The movie was quite entertaining indeed :)